20 thoughts on “My rant on reactions to being a Stay at Home Mom”
I’m so tired with one 13 mo and 8 yo stepson and you have 6 kids running
around trashing the house and someone dares to criticize? You’re doing a
great job, your house is amazing considering you work MORE THAN FULL TIME.
I always say to my (very supportive friend) that karma would be nice – if
one of my friends would for a few years have to be a stay at home mom. She
works full time and sees her daughter for just a couple hours a day just
like your friend does, and then she does the cry it out and complains
because she’s ‘tired’ after all day’s work. And what do I do? Nothing? I
don’t get to get a manicure, pedicure, like she does, moreover, I don’t get
to have a lunch break and I don’t have time to pee!. I get to clean up
constantly, I don’t get sick-leave, I just lay my tired ill body on the
floor if I have strep throat and let my baby jump on me while my fever goes
down lol.
You tell them! I so agree. I work from home making more money then I ever
have outside of the home but still people think I do nothing. It’s
annoying. I’ve always thought the being a stay at home mom was the most
important job ever and still do. Our society wouldn’t be the way it is if
women would have stayed home. Be proud of what you do! It’s the best and
hardest job in the world!
Amber Young, my mom was exactly like you and I grew up knowing she didnt
want me my entire life. You would be doing your son a favor by giving him
to someone that will treat him like the gift that he is.. Some people
should not be parents and you are one of them.. Quit worrying about
everyone else and let this child that you resent so much be raised by
someone that deserves him that will love him.
The last person that told me how lucky I am to stay home and how she
“wishes” she could do the same has literally been on 5 vacations THIS year!
We don’t even go out to dinner! It’s a tremendous sacrifice but I do it
because I believe it’s what’s best. Also, the comment pertaining to having
to do “both jobs”… I am sure being a working parent comes with it’s own
set of unique and even equal challenges but working parents who; as you
said see their children maybe 2 hours a night before bedtime are not doing
the same job as a stay at home parent. I’m not saying either is better or
worse easier, or harder, it’s just not the same. My MIL told me that my SIL
who works an obscene amount of hours will be doing “everything I do AND
working” she has one day off a week to clean, do laundry, rest and take
appointments how much of that ONE day will she be spending with her child?
The two cannot be compared. Stay at home parents are always on duty. I had
much more free time when I was working to run errands, pay bills etc and I
had money. Wouldn’t trade it for the world but it’s not easy.
I am backing you up girl. Some people just don’t get what it means to be
with children, taking care of children and teaching children all day. The
noise the being needed and having to have your attention on them all day is
exhausting. I am a german teacher and I worked with all ages from 0-12. I
love it. It’s rewarding in a very special way, but everyone who thinks it’s
easy or says we sit around and drink coffee all day is so wrong. They have
no clue how important it is for the “safety” of the children to take your
moments and calm and refuel. I am applauding you for the job you do. I
don’t know how you can do it all day without a break. I think I couldn’t.
But with the cleaning up after the kids I have to say. It is hard, but when
you train the kids to at least help or clean up themselves at the end of
the day or certain times in between (no matter what age) you are doing
yourself a favor in the long run. One just has to have the appropriate
expectations for the kids. Usually kids exceed my expectations. Stay strong
and proud. You should be. Sarah
YOU do not have to explain ANYTHING to ANYONE , mostly yourself !! You are
a delightful lady & you have a beautiful family & home, ALL that matters,
is what is BEHIND your front door , love & family !! My greatest
accomplishment is being a mother .. AND let me tell you something else I am
a teacher & YOU do BOTH jobs !! God bless you darlin , when you hear those
voices, SAY SHUT UP, NOT my circus NOT my monkeys !! ;)
People always judge. Stay at home mom’s are “lazy” or “using their
husbands”. Working mom’s “abandon their kids” or “neglect their duties as
mothers and wives”. Single mothers “should have thought about that before
they has kids with that man” and “shouldn’t expect help”. But when you
struggle to maintain a relationship, especially one that may not be working
too well, you get based too “why stay if you aren’t happy” and “the kids
suffer”. YOU ARE NOT A STAY AT HOME MOTHER! YOU ARE A WORKING MOTHER WHO
STAYS HOME!
Guess what-on the opposite side of the world (here)- TOTALLY THE SAME! if I
can undo myself to explain myself.
This is great video, I love your channel, take care and many blessings!
Thanks for having your channel! I am home with my two kids- a 4yr old and a
16 month old. There are plenty of times I tell my wife that she is lucky to
work and be out of the house. I thought I would hear more of the you do
what, comments, but I tell people up front what I do. I also run my own DJ
business in which I do 40 weddings a year and various other parties. I am
more tired some days after having my kids than when I used to work 2 jobs.
The emotional drain on top of the lack of adult conversation can get to be
too much. Needed a pick me up tonight- son has RSV and daughter has the
same cold- nebulizers and non-stop coughing for the past week have me
running on fumes.
I don’t get why it’s such a controversial topic. Stay at homes moms “work”
too. If one chooses to stay at home until their children go off to school
and then decide to “work” outside of the home for $ then good for them. Why
not? How is it anyone’s business? If you choose to home school and stay
home with your children until they go off to college, Again, why is it
anyone’s business. Since when did it become such a bad thing to actually
take care of your own children? If you have the opportunity to stay at
home with your children you should take it. If you feel guilty about “not”
contributing financially then babysit other children. Work from home. There
are a lot of things you can do. However, a stay at home should NEVER feel
guilty about staying home with their children; and those that try and make
them feel guilty should be ashamed of themselves. The same goes for those
who want or have to work outside of the home and need to drop their
children off at daycare or at school. It’s your decision to make. Its no
one business! Who cares!?! Why is this such an issue? Our focus should be
on other more pressing things such as war, ending world hunger etc.There
will always be someone who has something negative to say and that won’t
always agree with you. Miserable people always have something to say.
Misery loves company. Let’s thank God for stay at home moms because they
are the ones that help out those moms who have to go work outside of their
home and provide a more affordable way to do so. Daycare centers cost more
and don’t provide what a stay at home mom can provide.Think about it. I’ve
been that working out of the home mom and that stay at home mom who also
works. I have had to go to work out of need and I have had the opportunity
to stay at home. ALL Moms are Superheros!
I get that reaction a lot “Wow, you stay home? Must be nice”. Luckily, I
haven’t had any negative reaction from people yet. Actually now that I
think about it, the only negative reaction I get is from my parents. Just
like your mom, my mom is also a working mom.
what really rattles my cages is the comment ‘ oh I couldn’t do that, I want
my own money and I would hate to ask my husband for money’. First of all,
my husbands earnings is for our house and for our use. If the I, the kids
or husband needs something it is bought from our income. If I wasn’t at
home he would have to pay someone to do my job as a mother. I do not have
to ask him for any money because its ours to begin with, no questions or
explanations needed. Secondly , actually in my house I run the complete
budget from mortgage, bills, grocery, birthdays , Christmas and extras. I
have managed to up our payments on our mortgage with clever frugality and
am on track to finish the mortgage 5 years earlier in time for our kids
starting college. So my husband is very grateful and trusting when he more
or less gives me the pay check. Its not that you couldn’t do it, its you
don’t want to do it because you would have to invest full trust into your
husband and marriage to be a sahm.
someone said to me once “You’re a stay at home mom wow you’re lucky” my
response ………….. “yes I am lucky and very happy” I dont others put
me down for my families choices sand happiness
Thanks for this rant! I stayed home with my 3 kids for 14 years and only
went back into the workplace because my husband had just lost his job and
we had decided that he should start his own business. I went back to work
so we could have a health plan to cover us in the event of an illness.
I hated it! I wanted to be home to greet my teenage kids after school, help
them with their homework, teach them to cook, etc.!
And I was always getting the glazed eyes from women who found out that I
worked at home. Like I wouldn’t be able to carry on an intelligent
conversation! Crazy!
Anyway, thanks again for the rant. It needed to be said. Good for you!!!
my wife stays at home and takes care of our 4 kids.i would never want to
add any more work on top of that it would be way too hard for her! tell
your husband your getting rid of the day care kids and just focus on yours.
Try being a stay-at-home-wife with no children! I’m 57 now and widowed, but
when I was young, that’s what I did. I would hear “Must be nice” I said it
is, “What do you do all day?” I said everything. Then later, I went to work
and was asked “Why do you even work, your husband makes good money for just
2 people” Can’t win with some people. Just do what’s good for you and your
family because that’s what matters.
I’m so tired with one 13 mo and 8 yo stepson and you have 6 kids running
around trashing the house and someone dares to criticize? You’re doing a
great job, your house is amazing considering you work MORE THAN FULL TIME.
I always say to my (very supportive friend) that karma would be nice – if
one of my friends would for a few years have to be a stay at home mom. She
works full time and sees her daughter for just a couple hours a day just
like your friend does, and then she does the cry it out and complains
because she’s ‘tired’ after all day’s work. And what do I do? Nothing? I
don’t get to get a manicure, pedicure, like she does, moreover, I don’t get
to have a lunch break and I don’t have time to pee!. I get to clean up
constantly, I don’t get sick-leave, I just lay my tired ill body on the
floor if I have strep throat and let my baby jump on me while my fever goes
down lol.
You tell them! I so agree. I work from home making more money then I ever
have outside of the home but still people think I do nothing. It’s
annoying. I’ve always thought the being a stay at home mom was the most
important job ever and still do. Our society wouldn’t be the way it is if
women would have stayed home. Be proud of what you do! It’s the best and
hardest job in the world!
This is me, too. I’m a work at home mom, but people still see at as ‘lazy,
stay at home, spoiled mom.’
Amber Young, my mom was exactly like you and I grew up knowing she didnt
want me my entire life. You would be doing your son a favor by giving him
to someone that will treat him like the gift that he is.. Some people
should not be parents and you are one of them.. Quit worrying about
everyone else and let this child that you resent so much be raised by
someone that deserves him that will love him.
The last person that told me how lucky I am to stay home and how she
“wishes” she could do the same has literally been on 5 vacations THIS year!
We don’t even go out to dinner! It’s a tremendous sacrifice but I do it
because I believe it’s what’s best. Also, the comment pertaining to having
to do “both jobs”… I am sure being a working parent comes with it’s own
set of unique and even equal challenges but working parents who; as you
said see their children maybe 2 hours a night before bedtime are not doing
the same job as a stay at home parent. I’m not saying either is better or
worse easier, or harder, it’s just not the same. My MIL told me that my SIL
who works an obscene amount of hours will be doing “everything I do AND
working” she has one day off a week to clean, do laundry, rest and take
appointments how much of that ONE day will she be spending with her child?
The two cannot be compared. Stay at home parents are always on duty. I had
much more free time when I was working to run errands, pay bills etc and I
had money. Wouldn’t trade it for the world but it’s not easy.
I am backing you up girl. Some people just don’t get what it means to be
with children, taking care of children and teaching children all day. The
noise the being needed and having to have your attention on them all day is
exhausting. I am a german teacher and I worked with all ages from 0-12. I
love it. It’s rewarding in a very special way, but everyone who thinks it’s
easy or says we sit around and drink coffee all day is so wrong. They have
no clue how important it is for the “safety” of the children to take your
moments and calm and refuel. I am applauding you for the job you do. I
don’t know how you can do it all day without a break. I think I couldn’t.
But with the cleaning up after the kids I have to say. It is hard, but when
you train the kids to at least help or clean up themselves at the end of
the day or certain times in between (no matter what age) you are doing
yourself a favor in the long run. One just has to have the appropriate
expectations for the kids. Usually kids exceed my expectations. Stay strong
and proud. You should be. Sarah
YOU do not have to explain ANYTHING to ANYONE , mostly yourself !! You are
a delightful lady & you have a beautiful family & home, ALL that matters,
is what is BEHIND your front door , love & family !! My greatest
accomplishment is being a mother .. AND let me tell you something else I am
a teacher & YOU do BOTH jobs !! God bless you darlin , when you hear those
voices, SAY SHUT UP, NOT my circus NOT my monkeys !! ;)
People always judge. Stay at home mom’s are “lazy” or “using their
husbands”. Working mom’s “abandon their kids” or “neglect their duties as
mothers and wives”. Single mothers “should have thought about that before
they has kids with that man” and “shouldn’t expect help”. But when you
struggle to maintain a relationship, especially one that may not be working
too well, you get based too “why stay if you aren’t happy” and “the kids
suffer”. YOU ARE NOT A STAY AT HOME MOTHER! YOU ARE A WORKING MOTHER WHO
STAYS HOME!
Guess what-on the opposite side of the world (here)- TOTALLY THE SAME! if I
can undo myself to explain myself.
This is great video, I love your channel, take care and many blessings!
Thanks for having your channel! I am home with my two kids- a 4yr old and a
16 month old. There are plenty of times I tell my wife that she is lucky to
work and be out of the house. I thought I would hear more of the you do
what, comments, but I tell people up front what I do. I also run my own DJ
business in which I do 40 weddings a year and various other parties. I am
more tired some days after having my kids than when I used to work 2 jobs.
The emotional drain on top of the lack of adult conversation can get to be
too much. Needed a pick me up tonight- son has RSV and daughter has the
same cold- nebulizers and non-stop coughing for the past week have me
running on fumes.
I don’t get why it’s such a controversial topic. Stay at homes moms “work”
too. If one chooses to stay at home until their children go off to school
and then decide to “work” outside of the home for $ then good for them. Why
not? How is it anyone’s business? If you choose to home school and stay
home with your children until they go off to college, Again, why is it
anyone’s business. Since when did it become such a bad thing to actually
take care of your own children? If you have the opportunity to stay at
home with your children you should take it. If you feel guilty about “not”
contributing financially then babysit other children. Work from home. There
are a lot of things you can do. However, a stay at home should NEVER feel
guilty about staying home with their children; and those that try and make
them feel guilty should be ashamed of themselves. The same goes for those
who want or have to work outside of the home and need to drop their
children off at daycare or at school. It’s your decision to make. Its no
one business! Who cares!?! Why is this such an issue? Our focus should be
on other more pressing things such as war, ending world hunger etc.There
will always be someone who has something negative to say and that won’t
always agree with you. Miserable people always have something to say.
Misery loves company. Let’s thank God for stay at home moms because they
are the ones that help out those moms who have to go work outside of their
home and provide a more affordable way to do so. Daycare centers cost more
and don’t provide what a stay at home mom can provide.Think about it. I’ve
been that working out of the home mom and that stay at home mom who also
works. I have had to go to work out of need and I have had the opportunity
to stay at home. ALL Moms are Superheros!
I totally agree with you. Very well said. Thank you for your videos. :)
I get that reaction a lot “Wow, you stay home? Must be nice”. Luckily, I
haven’t had any negative reaction from people yet. Actually now that I
think about it, the only negative reaction I get is from my parents. Just
like your mom, my mom is also a working mom.
what really rattles my cages is the comment ‘ oh I couldn’t do that, I want
my own money and I would hate to ask my husband for money’. First of all,
my husbands earnings is for our house and for our use. If the I, the kids
or husband needs something it is bought from our income. If I wasn’t at
home he would have to pay someone to do my job as a mother. I do not have
to ask him for any money because its ours to begin with, no questions or
explanations needed. Secondly , actually in my house I run the complete
budget from mortgage, bills, grocery, birthdays , Christmas and extras. I
have managed to up our payments on our mortgage with clever frugality and
am on track to finish the mortgage 5 years earlier in time for our kids
starting college. So my husband is very grateful and trusting when he more
or less gives me the pay check. Its not that you couldn’t do it, its you
don’t want to do it because you would have to invest full trust into your
husband and marriage to be a sahm.
someone said to me once “You’re a stay at home mom wow you’re lucky” my
response ………….. “yes I am lucky and very happy” I dont others put
me down for my families choices sand happiness
Thanks for this rant! I stayed home with my 3 kids for 14 years and only
went back into the workplace because my husband had just lost his job and
we had decided that he should start his own business. I went back to work
so we could have a health plan to cover us in the event of an illness.
I hated it! I wanted to be home to greet my teenage kids after school, help
them with their homework, teach them to cook, etc.!
And I was always getting the glazed eyes from women who found out that I
worked at home. Like I wouldn’t be able to carry on an intelligent
conversation! Crazy!
Anyway, thanks again for the rant. It needed to be said. Good for you!!!
Yep, weird looks and comments seem to go with being a stay at home parent
my wife stays at home and takes care of our 4 kids.i would never want to
add any more work on top of that it would be way too hard for her! tell
your husband your getting rid of the day care kids and just focus on yours.
Try being a stay-at-home-wife with no children! I’m 57 now and widowed, but
when I was young, that’s what I did. I would hear “Must be nice” I said it
is, “What do you do all day?” I said everything. Then later, I went to work
and was asked “Why do you even work, your husband makes good money for just
2 people” Can’t win with some people. Just do what’s good for you and your
family because that’s what matters.
Thank you for the video. I love staying home with my kids. Raising kids to
be good human beings is the most difficult responsibility in the world.